Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop Prompt

One of the prompts for this week from Mama’s Losin’ It! is right up my alley. I chose:  Do you love YouTube? Share five of your all time favorite YouTube videos. Choosing which prompt I wanted to do was the easy part. Having to narrow down my favorite videos to a mere 5 was the hard part.

5. I can remember being a little girl and just singing my heart out when this song came on the radio. Of course, it didn’t really matter to me what The Manhattan’s song was about. I just liked the lyrics. However, I did think the song was about a man having to let his maid go. Don’t ask me how I came up with this but it did give me a good chuckle when, as an adult, I heard the song again and understood what it was really about.

4. If you read my blog, you know I like me some Tequila! No feet discrimination, I say!

3. Remember when you were just starting out with make-up? Did anyone else start off with the light blue and pink eye shadow?? Man, that was so popular when I was in Junior High. I think what makes me chuckle about men and make-up, is how much they don’t pay attention to the process we go through. Even when their wife does make-up videos.

2. One motivational speaker I NEVER get tired of listening to is Les Brown. I follow him on Twitter and have liked his Facebook page. Recently, he started a group on Facebook and I was excited to get an invite to the group.

1. I came across Katie Piper’s story as I was browsing through YouTube one day. Katie had the misfortune of meeting a man who changed her life in a way you wouldn’t imagine. Although Katie had a tough time at some points, she managed to turn things around and share her struggles with the world. I admire people like Katie because sometimes, just sometimes, it’s the not just the power of thought but having the strength to have that power.

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Unspoken Pain

The other day, while I was at the office, “R” told me about the memorial service of a man who’d committed suicide. It always hurts my heart when I hear about someone committing suicide. I think about the person who made and followed through with the permanent decision to end their life. I think about family members and friends who are left behind. It’s during those times I feel the true power of helplessness. When I wish I had the power to embrace the world and rid it of its pain and disappointments.

It turns out I know the man who ended his life. I recalled the last couple of times I’d seen him. I scoured my memory to see if I had glimpsed a clue and didn’t realize it. I wondered how his wife and children were doing. I thought about all of the gossip surrounding the reasons as to why he ended his life. And I hurt so bad. For him. For his kids. For his wife. For everyone who knows him and suffers a great loss.

When I decided to do this post, I didn’t know National Suicide Prevention Week is from September 9th -15th but I want to share some information with you. I hope you will pass this information on. You never know when someone might be thinking about ending his or her own life.

National Events

Sunday, September 9th-Show Off Your Awareness Ribbon

The purple and turquoise Suicide Prevention Ribbon symbolizes suicide awareness and prevention and serves as a reminder that suicide is an issue we need to talk about. Download a ribbon avatar and make it your profile picture on Facebook and Twitter during National Suicide Prevention Week.

Monday, September 10th-Celebrate World Suicide Prevention Day

Tell your co-workers, friends, and family that preventing suicide is important by wearing turquoise and purple in honor of World Suicide Prevention Day.

Tuesday, September 11th-Get the Digits Day

Save the Lifeline number, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) in your phone and encourage your friends and family to do the same. You never know when someone may need the number.

Wednesday, September 12th-Learn the Warning Signs

Every 15 minutes someone takes their life. Spend 1 minute learning the warning signs and learn how to prevent suicide.

Thursday, September 13th-Make a “Reasons to Call” Sign

There are a million reasons to call the Lifeline. We asked people to make a sign telling others why they should call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or why they have called themselves. Get inspired by viewing the 200 signs on the Lifeline’s Facebook page—and please make and upload your own.

Friday, September 14th-Join a Twitter Chat

We all have a role to play in suicide prevention. Find out what you can do in your community, workplace, or circle by attending the 800272TALK’s first-ever Twitter chat. Time TBD.

 Saturday, September 15th-Make a My Lifeline Video

Help prevent suicide by making your own My Lifeline explaining why you have called the Lifeline—or a video telling other people why they should call when they are struggling. Learn more about making a video here.

Here are some signs to look for in someone who may be suicidal:

  • Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves.
  • Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
  • Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
  • Talking about being a burden to others.
  • Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
  • Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
  • Sleeping too little or too much.
  • Withdrawing or isolating themselves.
  • Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
  • Displaying extreme mood swings.

If you or someone you know is suicidal, there is help. There are people who care and will help you.

Lifeline at 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

A Sad Song

Day 3: A Song That Makes You Cry (or Nearly)

The song that instantly jumps to my mind is:

Hurt
by
Christina Aquilera

My introduction to the song came through rather sad circumstances. A friend of mine, “V”, called me on a Sunday, giving me the news her ex-husband had committed suicide just hours before. She was on her way to pick up her daughter, who unfortunately, had called to speak to her dad just moments after he took his life. 

“V”and I spoke several times during the next few days as funeral arrangements were made. In one of our conversations, she told me how she’d encouraged her daughter to play “Hurt” at the funeral. I hadn’t heard the song when she told me. I kept an ear out for it on the radio and when I finally heard it, it ripped my heart out. I wasn’t sure her daughter could handle the song during the funeral. 
There’d been much pain in “V”‘s ex-husband’s life due to a secret he’d kept for so long. I’d been there during  parts of his break downs, supporting “V”, her kids, and her ex. Over time, he began talking to “V” about his secret, started getting help and met the woman he would eventually marry. There’s a part of me, to this day, that doesn’t believe 100% he meant to take his life. 

I watched as his children fell apart at his viewing. His son went down a bad road. His daughter has managed to further her education but self-medicates. And my friend, “V”, she withdrew from me, her other friends, her life, her career and eventually left the state without saying a word to us. 

So when I hear this song, I always think of “V”, her children, and her ex.     



“Hurt”

Seems like it was yesterday when I saw your face
You told me how proud you were but I walked away
If only I knew what I know today

I would hold you in my arms
I would take the pain away
Thank you for all you’ve done
Forgive all your mistakes
There’s nothing I wouldn’t do
To hear your voice again
Sometimes I want to call you but I know you won’t be there

I’m sorry for blaming you for everything I just couldn’t do
And I’ve hurt myself by hurting you
Some days I feel broke inside but I won’t admit
Sometimes I just want to hide ’cause it’s you I miss
You know it’s so hard to say goodbye when it comes to this

Would you tell me I was wrong?
Would you help me understand?
Are you looking down upon me?
Are you proud of who I am?
There’s nothing I wouldn’t do
To have just one more chance
To look into your eyes and see you looking back

I’m sorry for blaming you for everything I just couldn’t do
And I’ve hurt myself
If I had just one more day, I would tell you how much that
I’ve missed you since you’ve been away

Oh, it’s dangerous
It’s so out of line to try to turn back time

I’m sorry for blaming you for everything I just couldn’t do
And I’ve hurt myself

By hurting you 

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